But you can't just slide into anal sex (unless you're using plenty of lube...but more on that later). If you don't know what you're doing and you aren't careful, you could hurt yourself or your partner because the anus is sensitive. "Contrary to what many believe, anal sex does not have to be painful (unless people engaging in it want it to be)," says Dulcinea Pitagora, a sex therapist known as the Kink Doctor. So before you give anal a try, read our tips about how to prep, both physically and mentally.
9. Between thin water-based lubes (like Astroglide) and thicker ones (KY), go with the thicker ones, because they don't dry out as quickly. In sex educator Tristan Taormino's crazy-helpful Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, she mentions that Crisco has been a favorite of the LGBT community for a long time, but it's bad to use with condoms because it can eventually poke tiny holes in the latex.

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4. Get a water-based lube. Sexologist Jill McDevitt says to secure a quality water-based lube ahead of time. This will make rubbing and massaging even better. Even if your foreplay doesn’t involve penetration for now, lube makes everything better and can increase sensitivity. A great option is Lelo’s water-based lube—it’s slippery enough that it won’t gunk up on you, and it looks chic AF.


Anal cancer forms when a genetic mutation turns normal, healthy cells into abnormal cells. Healthy cells grow and multiply at a set rate, eventually dying at a set time. Abnormal cells grow and multiply out of control, and they don't die. The accumulating abnormal cells form a mass (tumor). Cancer cells invade nearby tissues and can separate from an initial tumor to spread elsewhere in the body (metastasize).
First, a few words about the survey. We shared this 15-question anonymous survey with our social media followers, on our website and in our newsletters—to reach a convenience sample of people connected to San Francisco AIDS Foundation. The 412 people who took the survey likely felt they had something to say about pain and sex. (In other words, the sample isn’t representative of our entire community or San Francisco.)
The anus (from Latin anus meaning "ring", "circle") is an opening at the opposite end of an animal's digestive tract from the mouth. Its function is to control the expulsion of feces, unwanted semi-solid matter produced during digestion, which, depending on the type of animal, may include: matter which the animal cannot digest, such as bones;[1] food material after all the nutrients have been extracted, for example cellulose or lignin; ingested matter which would be toxic if it remained in the digestive tract; and dead or excess gut bacteria and other endosymbionts.
The Gräfenberg spot, or G-spot, is a debated area of female anatomy, particularly among doctors and researchers,[27][36][28] but it is typically described as being located behind the female pubic bone surrounding the urethra and accessible through the anterior wall of the vagina; it and other areas of the vagina are considered to have tissue and nerves that are related to the clitoris.[31][27][28] Direct stimulation of the clitoris, a G-spot area, or both, while engaging in anal sex can help some women enjoy the activity and reach orgasm during it.[2][37]

Although people tend to think that having an orgasm is the goal of sex, you can get lots of pleasure from doing sexual things even if you don’t have an orgasm. In fact, putting a lot of pressure on having an orgasm can make you or your partner anxious, which can make sex stressful and less enjoyable. Relax, and remember that pleasure, not orgasms, is the goal.
"People assume that those who try anal sex have to be gay, or that only men like to have anal, or that having anal is weird, shameful, and wrong because the butt is supposed to only be an 'exit,'" Van Kirk tells BuzzFeed Health. "But that's not true at all. Anyone can experiment with and enjoy anal. In fact, anal sex is the primary form of sex in some countries where birth control is not available to them."
The distance between a woman’s anus and vaginal opening is very short, about an inch and a half. After the male ejaculates into his partner’s anus, his semen can easily drip out, travel across this very short space (known as the perineum), and enter his partner’s vagina. This trace amount of semen is all it takes to get some women pregnant. (Yes, really!)
Amphibians, reptiles, and birds use the same orifice (known as the cloaca) for excreting liquid and solid wastes, for copulation and egg-laying. Monotreme mammals also have a cloaca, which is thought to be a feature inherited from the earliest amniotes via the therapsids. Marsupials have a single orifice for excreting both solids and liquids and, in females, a separate vagina for reproduction. Female placental mammals have completely separate orifices for defecation, urination, and reproduction; males have one opening for defecation and another for both urination and reproduction, although the channels flowing to that orifice are almost completely separate.
While there’s definitely gastrointestinal bacteria in and around your partner’s anus, it’s probably not likely to cause a gastrointestinal illness like food poisoning when you ingest it. The exception is if they actually have a GI issue themselves, Dr. Frankhouse says. It’s a pretty simple rule: If the anilingus receiver has had any unusual bowel movements lately, it’s probably best to take this activity off the menu for now. That includes stool that’s runnier than usual, bowel movements that are more or less frequent than usual, and even irregular anal itching. All of these could be signs that there’s extra bacteria hanging out down there, which is definitely not ideal for anilingus.
Glickman recommends starting with your face looking down at the bed and getting on your elbows and knees, rather than hands and knees, because you want your hips higher than your shoulders, so the penetrator has easier access. He also recommends trying the position where the receiver is standing and bent over the bed, or doing cowgirl/cowboy with the receiver straddling so that they can control the depth and pace.
Anal sex is a divine pleasure to some, a thing of the devil to others - taking it up the ass still polarizes couples across the globe. For most guys, the tight asshole is not made for their cock, but since humans are an ingenious and curious species, we discovered early on that anal penetration can provide pleasures not only to the giving man but also to the receiving woman, if done right, of course! The most important thing regarding anal - and we cannot stretch, err, stress this enough - is to start slow, be gentle and use lube. There is simply no fun in friction, especially not back there in the tight anus. And if you want to do anal more than once, you better make sure that the first time doesn't end up a horror show for her and her beautiful ass. And be open to suggestions she might make, like maybe sticking a finger up yours in return. Let her have some anal fun, too. And after all, if there is such a thing as a male G-spot, then it is accessible via the anal sphincter. Prostate massage anyone? Funny how evolution works sometimes. The male fun spot, right up to the ass. But let's focus on the girl's chocolate starfish again. You see, once you get used to the gaping part, anal fucking is not as big a deal as it might seem. It's very common nowadays, in many cultures and nationalities. Just a short glimpse at the anal sex videos on PornHD reveals that everyone's doing it. History shows that Europeans do anal like it's their second nature, Americans jumped onto the anal bandwagon and have evolved into ass fucking connoisseurs, Asians know no taboos about anal since centuries, except maybe Japanese guys, who have to content themselves with a hunch as to whether the asshole or the pussy gets penetrated behind the pixels. On PornHD you can make sure it's real, btw. If this is no indication that anal is much better than vaginal, multiple pornstars openly state that they prefer being fucked in the ass to being fucked in the pussy. Henessy comes into mind. Is there actually a scene where she doesn't enjoy some rough anal action? Stacy Silver, Allie Haze, London Keyes, you name them, are all renowned for their preference in anal cock riding. Even Riley Reid grew to like it. For some, the cocks used for anal intercourse cannot get big enough, making you wonder how much further you can go beyond the rectum. Our valued partner channels from HardX, Tushy, MyVeryFirstTime or AssTraffic showcase how beautiful anal sex can be. For the anal fanatics among us, there's plenty of stuff to be found on Porn HD : from anal fingering to anal toying, over ass licking or rimming leading to the culmination of it all with a big warm creamy filling, the anal creampie. The fascination with anal is so huge there's no getting away from it and that's a good thing, especially if you can enjoy your anal porn in crisp and sharp HD quality.
Glickman recommends starting with your face looking down at the bed and getting on your elbows and knees, rather than hands and knees, because you want your hips higher than your shoulders, so the penetrator has easier access. He also recommends trying the position where the receiver is standing and bent over the bed, or doing cowgirl/cowboy with the receiver straddling so that they can control the depth and pace.
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A different kind of sex toy is a vibrator. Vibrators run on electricity or batteries, and they vibrate (buzz) when you turn them on. Many people like the feeling of vibrations on their genitals, especially the clitoris, penis, and anus. Vibrators also come in different shapes, materials, and sizes. Some are shaped so they can be inserted into a vagina or anus. Others are designed to be used on the outside of your body, like on the clitoris or penis. People can get vibrators and other sex toys online, in some drugstores, and at “adult shops” (you may have to be at least 18 years old to go into some stores that sell sex toys).

While anal sex is commonly associated with male homosexuality, research shows that not all gay males engage in anal sex and that it is not uncommon in heterosexual relationships.[2][8][9] Types of anal sex can also be a part of lesbian sexual practices.[10] People may experience pleasure from anal sex by stimulation of the anal nerve endings, and orgasm may be achieved through anal penetration – by indirect stimulation of the prostate in men, indirect stimulation of the clitoris or an area of the vagina (sometimes called the G-spot) in women, and other sensory nerves (especially the pudendal nerve).[2][4][11] However, people may also find anal sex painful, sometimes extremely so,[12][13] which may be primarily due to psychological factors in some cases.[13]


Take things slowly, use plenty of lubrication, and stop if it becomes too painful. Don’t aim to have full penis penetration your first go-round. Try using a finger, and then upgrade to two or three fingers. A toy might be a good option, too, as you grow more comfortable with the sensation. After the first time or two, you and your partner will likely find that the pleasure trumps any initial discomforts.
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