Anal sex, though often stigmatized, is a perfectly natural way to engage in sexual activity. People have been having anal sex since the dawn of humanity. Seriously, it's been documented back to the ancient Greeks and then some. So if you’re a little worried about trying it or are having trouble understanding the appeal, just know that it isn’t weird or gross.

I really want to enjoy anal sex with my husband, but can’t seem to get over that feeling of needing to go to the bathroom. I’m terrified something may come out while we do it. What’s the best way to get past that “gotta poo” feeling? We want to work up to double penetration, but that’s not going to be possible until I can work through this. BTW – I’m absolutely loving your content. Very helpful!


Ok, just hear me out… because I don’t want anyone thinking this is 100% birth control. No, your rectum does not connect you anything to cause pregnancy. Think about it like masturbating onto your partner’s vulva (the lips and stuff on the outside), this is because there is a SMALL chance that the little swimmers could swim all the way home. This is not very common, but it is possible.
How do you treat an external hemorrhoid? An external hemorrhoid is a hemorrhoid that occurs outside of the body in the veins around the anus. Caused by excess straining while passing stool, lifting heavy weights, and pregnancy, symptoms include bleeding, cracking, and itching. Treatments include warm baths, OTC medications, and surgery. Learn more here. Read now
2. “Here’s my thoughts as someone who really enjoys giving anal. From a purely physical standpoint it’s not better than PIV or a blow job. PIV is tighter, warmer, wetter, the physical sensations from PIV are just better all around. The pleasure I get from anal is probably like 75% (pulled appropriately from my ass) mental. In large part the pleasure comes from the dominance I feel from the fact that she’s letting me do this to her. I like that it hurts her a bit. I like that it’s something good girls aren’t supposed to do. I like that she lets me do it anyway just to please me.”
Intra-rectal pressure builds as the rectum fills with feces, pushing the feces against the walls of the anal canal. Contractions of abdominal and pelvic floor muscles can create intra-abdominal pressure which further increases intra-rectal pressure. The internal anal sphincter (an involuntary muscle) responds to the pressure by relaxing, thus allowing the feces to enter the canal. The rectum shortens as feces are pushed into the anal canal and peristaltic waves push the feces out of the rectum. Relaxation of the internal and external anal sphincters allows the feces to exit from the anus, finally, as the levator ani muscles pull the anus up over the exiting feces.

The tissue and skin around the anus acts as a protective barrier for the bottom half of your digestive tract. However, the tissue inside the anus is thinner, delicate, and more likely to tear and bleed as a result of penetration. This increases the likelihood of passing infections, viruses, or bacteria between partners. Even two partners who don’t have any sexually transmitted infections (STIs) can still pass bacteria between each other through these tears in the skin.
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