Not all agree on how to do anal in real life. They are unanimous on the value of a ton of lube and gradual exploration. But some stars believe in a degree of prep work even in real life, while others believe it can be done well spontaneously, in the heat of the sexual moment. And not all of their advice will be relevant to everyone, as every asshole has different needs and levels of resilience. Stars like Sartre and longtime anal expert Joanna Angel, for instance, feel like their vaginas fatigue from frequent or rough sex faster than their asses; Angel told me her body seems so well built for anal she doesn’t need to stretch even to prep for hardcore scenes. Other people, DeVille cautions, may be at higher risk of injuries than others. And most of the adult stars I’ve spoken to over the years about the topic agree that, for some people, anal just might not be a good fit. But the advice they offer below on how to approach anal sex, especially as a beginner, is a great jumping off point for individual exploration into the great anal beyond.
"For me, being penetrated during anal sex can be a little sore during insertion and in the first few minutes. Lots of lube, slow, gentle motions, and patience move it quickly to the next phase, which is an exciting, pleasurable pressure. I find that I can have stronger orgasms while being penetrated anally, but these are clitoral or vaginal orgasms, not anal orgasms—those are quite elusive. For me, it's probably the added stimulation, the intimacy, and the emotional intensity of anal that make orgasms stronger.
14. “Part of it is the taboo aspect. It is more intimate in a way because we are letting down all our borders regarding what is ‘normal.’ It’s our dirty little secret. Everyone assumes we have sex, but most people wouldn’t assume she lets me cum in her ass. I think another thing is a certain level of trust that must be present, and that she trusts me to not just drive it home at the starting gun. The bit of pain she may experience in the beginning might seem reminiscent of a woman’s ‘first time,’ and my carnal desire to have my way with her overtaking my normal instinct to not hurt her. The feeling that she is giving up some of her humility for my pleasure, and that I am doing to her as I please. That is the attraction in real life. In porn, however, the attraction to anal is different for me. I’m more into the mindset of how it is not the norm, how I bet it feels good from the side of the penis-bearer, and what a nasty little slut she is. I’m attracted to the idea that she wouldn’t object.”
16. That being said, you can totally clean things up. The key to anal play is comfort, so do whatever you need to help with any lingering anxiety. "Using an anal douche is not harmful if only done once in awhile and might help you relax your concerns about your bowels," advises Pierce. You can use something as simple as warm water for a quick cleanse too.
Anal sex has never been a pleasant thought to me…till last night my boyfriend and I decided to try it out. We had a few drinks together and had sex the usual entry whilst that, we were having so much fun that I insisted we try anal and of course like any other guy wouldn’t disagree, we did. WOW! It was amazing! I had 3 orgasms consecutively! Something i have never done before! What better way to enjoy your sex.
I personally have just started experimenting with anal sex and from my experience, it sounds worse of a painful experience than it really is. My misconception about it, that I think a lot of other girls have too, is that the initial pain of… insertion… lasts through the entire insertion process, or in more blunt terms, that the pain you feel when a guy first inserts his penis “head” in lasts throughout the entire time he continues to push inward. This was not the case at all, for me at least. I’m not sure if that is what the term “rimming” is, but once my partner and I got past that initial step (which did take some practice and patience, as described in the article), it was smooth sailing.
In addition to HIV, a person can get other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) like chlamydia and gonorrhea from anal sex without condoms. Even if a condom is used, some STDs can still be transmitted through skin-to-skin contact (like syphilis or herpes). One can also get hepatitis A, B, and C; parasites like Giardia and intestinal amoebas; and bacteria like Shigella, Salmonella, Campylobacter, and E. coli from anal sex without a condom because they’re transmitted through feces. Getting tested and treated for STDs reduces a person’s chances of getting or transmitting HIV through anal sex. If one has never had hepatitis A or B, there are vaccines to prevent them. A health care provider can make recommendations about vaccines.
I’m a lucky man to have such a woman as my lover. But the story is really to say that anal sex is horses for courses. She at NO time ever complained of pain or discomfort on her first trip down Sphincter Alley. I know I would have!! We went the full Monty next time and I got my cock really deep into her and man, she was just going wild! It was just slowness and patience and above all utter relaxation that gave her such an easy and joyous initiation. Take note.
Different cultures have had different views on anal sex throughout human history, with some cultures more positive about the activity than others.[5][52][97] Historically, anal sex has been restricted or condemned, especially with regard to religious beliefs; it has also commonly been used as a form of domination, usually with the active partner (the one who is penetrating) representing masculinity and the passive partner (the one who is being penetrated) representing femininity.[5][7][52] A number of cultures have especially recorded the practice of anal sex between males, and anal sex between males has been especially stigmatized or punished.[7][57][98] In some societies, if discovered to have engaged in the practice, the individuals involved were put to death, such as by decapitation, burning, or even mutilation.[5]
A small number of anal cancers are known as adenocarcinomas. These start in cells that line the upper part of the anus near the rectum. They can also start in the glands under the anal mucosa that release secretions into the anal canal. Most anal adenocarcinomas are treated the same as rectal carcinomas. For more information, see Colorectal Cancer.
Reports regarding the prevalence of anal sex among gay men and other men who have sex with men vary. A survey in The Advocate in 1994 indicated that 46% of gay men preferred to penetrate their partners, while 43% preferred to be the receptive partner.[55] Other sources suggest that roughly three-fourths of gay men have had anal sex at one time or another, with an equal percentage participating as tops and bottoms.[55] A 2012 NSSHB sex survey in the U.S. suggests high lifetime participation in anal sex among gay men: 83.3% report ever taking part in anal sex in the insertive position and 90% in the receptive position, even if only between a third and a quarter self-report very recent engagement in the practice, defined as 30 days or less.[63]
4. You might bleed a little. As always, if you're bleeding profusely or persistently (like, for longer than an hour), you should call a doctor. But a little blood during anal play or sex isn't abnormal. Partha Nandi, a gastroenterologist and health editor with WXYZ-TV in Detroit, tells Cosmopolitan.com the most common reason for bleeding after anal sex is anal tears — small tears or fissures in the delicate anal canal tissue. Before you freak out at the thought of "anal tears," know that most of these are so tiny you won't even feel them, and a lot of them don't produce any blood at all. But, like snowflakes, no two anal tears are the same, so yours may bleed a bit. These little guys should heal within a few days but may cause a bit of mild discomfort when you're pooping.
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