2. “Here’s my thoughts as someone who really enjoys giving anal. From a purely physical standpoint it’s not better than PIV or a blow job. PIV is tighter, warmer, wetter, the physical sensations from PIV are just better all around. The pleasure I get from anal is probably like 75% (pulled appropriately from my ass) mental. In large part the pleasure comes from the dominance I feel from the fact that she’s letting me do this to her. I like that it hurts her a bit. I like that it’s something good girls aren’t supposed to do. I like that she lets me do it anyway just to please me.”
14. “Part of it is the taboo aspect. It is more intimate in a way because we are letting down all our borders regarding what is ‘normal.’ It’s our dirty little secret. Everyone assumes we have sex, but most people wouldn’t assume she lets me cum in her ass. I think another thing is a certain level of trust that must be present, and that she trusts me to not just drive it home at the starting gun. The bit of pain she may experience in the beginning might seem reminiscent of a woman’s ‘first time,’ and my carnal desire to have my way with her overtaking my normal instinct to not hurt her. The feeling that she is giving up some of her humility for my pleasure, and that I am doing to her as I please. That is the attraction in real life. In porn, however, the attraction to anal is different for me. I’m more into the mindset of how it is not the norm, how I bet it feels good from the side of the penis-bearer, and what a nasty little slut she is. I’m attracted to the idea that she wouldn’t object.”
Anal sex can expose its participants to two principal dangers: infections due to the high number of infectious microorganisms not found elsewhere on the body, and physical damage to the anus and rectum due to their fragility. Unprotected penile-anal penetration, colloquially known as barebacking, carries a higher risk of passing on sexually transmitted infections (STIs/STDs) because the anal sphincter is a delicate, easily torn tissue that can provide an entry for pathogens. The high concentration of white blood cells around the rectum, together with the risk of tearing and the colon's function to absorb fluid, are what place those who engage in anal sex at high risk of STIs. Use of condoms, ample lubrication to reduce the risk of tearing, and safer sex practices in general, reduce the risk of STI transmission. However, a condom can break or otherwise come off during anal sex, and this is more likely to happen with anal sex than with other sex acts because of the tightness of the anal sphincters during friction.
With anal sex, the anus can play a role in sexuality. Attitudes towards anal sex vary and it is illegal in some countries. The anus is often considered a taboo part of the body, and it is known by a large number of usually vulgar slang terms. The anus is also the site of potential infections and other conditions, including cancer. The traditional polite synonym for anus was fundament, though this euphemism is rarely heard now that medical terms are widely acceptable.
If you’ve had unprotected anal sex and are worried about possible HIV infection, go and see your healthcare professional straight away. You may be able to take post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) to prevent HIV infection, but it has to be taken within 72 hours to be effective. However, PEP is not a replacement for condoms and isn’t available everywhere.
2. Try out anal play first. Before embarking on the full monte of penetrative, anal sex, you can—and should!—give lighter anal play a try. This is open to interpretation, and could mean anything from toys to fingers or mouths. It'll give you a lower-pressure idea of what the ~sensations~ of anal stimulation feel like, and is a way of working up to the big show. Or not! If you decide some light anal play is all you're interested in, camp out there forever. No rules here, except to use lube, have consent, and USE LUBE.