8. The right lube is twice as important as it is when having vaginal sex, which is already super-important. You might have heard that too much lube takes away the friction that makes it feel good for the dude. That's bullshit. There is no such thing as too much lube, because it makes it feel slightly less like you are using your butthole as a handbag for a flashlight.
I personally have just started experimenting with anal sex and from my experience, it sounds worse of a painful experience than it really is. My misconception about it, that I think a lot of other girls have too, is that the initial pain of… insertion… lasts through the entire insertion process, or in more blunt terms, that the pain you feel when a guy first inserts his penis “head” in lasts throughout the entire time he continues to push inward. This was not the case at all, for me at least. I’m not sure if that is what the term “rimming” is, but once my partner and I got past that initial step (which did take some practice and patience, as described in the article), it was smooth sailing.

Research indicates that anal sex occurs significantly less frequently than other sexual behaviors,[1] but its association with dominance and submission, as well as taboo, makes it an appealing stimulus to people of all sexual orientations.[5][18][19] In addition to sexual penetration by the penis, people may use sex toys such as butt plugs or anal beads, engage in fingering, anilingus, pegging, anal masturbation or fisting for anal sexual activity, and different sex positions may also be included.[5][20] Fisting is the least practiced of the activities,[21] partly because it is uncommon that people can relax enough to accommodate an object as big as a fist being inserted into the anus.[5]

Fortunately, sex educators have met this rising demand with a wealth of how-to guides and things to keep in mind for those exploring anal. Unfortunately, many people dive right in without doing much research. That means, what little anal education many first timers have often comes from porn, where anal is often portrayed as easy: just shove an unlubricated toy or peen up an asshole, with no preparation, and pump hard for, like, an hour.


It is often described as a feeling of fullness, which can be delightful. Most orgasms stem from the clitoris, including anal orgasms. The clitoris is the epicenter of pleasure for clitoris owning people. It is the only part of the female anatomy designed specifically for pleasure. For some vagina owners, anal sex can stimulate the internal clitoris, which is highly pleasurable.
4. Get a water-based lube. Sexologist Jill McDevitt says to secure a quality water-based lube ahead of time. This will make rubbing and massaging even better. Even if your foreplay doesn’t involve penetration for now, lube makes everything better and can increase sensitivity. A great option is Lelo’s water-based lube—it’s slippery enough that it won’t gunk up on you, and it looks chic AF.

Research indicates that anal sex occurs significantly less frequently than other sexual behaviors,[1] but its association with dominance and submission, as well as taboo, makes it an appealing stimulus to people of all sexual orientations.[5][18][19] In addition to sexual penetration by the penis, people may use sex toys such as butt plugs or anal beads, engage in fingering, anilingus, pegging, anal masturbation or fisting for anal sexual activity, and different sex positions may also be included.[5][20] Fisting is the least practiced of the activities,[21] partly because it is uncommon that people can relax enough to accommodate an object as big as a fist being inserted into the anus.[5]
The term Greek love has long been used to refer to anal intercourse, and in modern times, "doing it the Greek way" is sometimes used as slang for anal sex.[104] Ancient Greeks accepted romantic or sexual relationships between males as a balanced sex life (having males and females as lovers), and they considered this "normal (as long as one partner was an adult and the other was aged between twelve and fifteen)".[105]
"I used to be obsessed with anal. At one point in high school, I was having more anal than regular sex. When done right—and by right I mean when the guy doesn't shove his d*ck into you like a horse in heat—anal can teeter on that dangerous line between pleasure and pain. He feels bigger than ever and completely fills you up. As he's going in, you have to hold your breath because you feel like your body doesn't have room for air and his d*ck at the same time, but once he's in, the pleasure radiates through your whole body." —Nina T.
People who are HIV-negative and at very high risk for HIV can take daily medicine to prevent HIV. Pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP), if taken consistently, can reduce the risk of getting HIV from sex by more than 90%. PrEP is much less effective when it is not taken consistently. Since PrEP is not 100% effective at preventing HIV, consider using other prevention methods to further reduce your risk. Only condoms can help protect against other STDs.
10. Start small. The whole point of anal play is to keep it simple before working your way up. "To prepare a bottom for sex play, start with fingers, tongue, or a very small sex toy designed for butt play," says clinical sexologist Nancy Sutton Pierce. "An option is to purchase a butt plug kit that uses several plugs of graduating sizes just for this training."

Anal sex is a type of sexual intimacy that people have always explored, but advice about how to do it and how to enjoy it are often lacking — especially when compared to advice about vaginal sex and oral sex. So BuzzFeed Health spoke with the following sex educators and sex therapists for the comprehensive anal sex education that was probably missing from your life:
If you’re going ver-r-r-y slowly and using lots of lube, but it’s still not happening, don’t fret. There are plenty of other ways to have fun back there; there’s no need to be too hung up on penetration. But who knows? After a little tongue and finger play, you might just be warmed up enough to try again. You can also try an ‘anal easing’ lubricant, designed to gently relax the anal area for easy insertion, like this one:
A small number of anal cancers are known as adenocarcinomas. These start in cells that line the upper part of the anus near the rectum. They can also start in the glands under the anal mucosa that release secretions into the anal canal. Most anal adenocarcinomas are treated the same as rectal carcinomas. For more information, see Colorectal Cancer.
6. “I’m probably an outlier on the spectrum of “tightness” that I enjoy, in that I actually don’t enjoy a tight pussy. I don’t jerk off with a tight squeeze – very, very light in fact with a LOT of lube. That being said, the best blow job for me is the kind where the woman’s mouth is loosely mocking a wet, slimy cave that you park a Prius in. I just want to feel the sliding and wetness. When it comes to pussy, I love it, but my favorite is pounding my GF with a large dildo (which she loves) and being the last to be inside of her, after she’s all loosened up. You know that old saying, ‘It’s like throwing a hotdog down a hallway’? I actually prefer that. I’m not sure why, psychologically, but it just feels great to me to be flopping around in there. So, when it comes to anal, all of those descriptions are exactly what its like. It’s open. It’s wet (with a lot of lube, of course), it’s slimy, and it’s unconstricted.”
Endless hours of assfucking films where teens with braces and spex let their boyfriends put their throbbing dicks anywhere. Horny stepdaughters lubing big black cocks with saliva before shoving them deep inside their craving buttholes. Behold slutty schoolgirls who love showing off their lustful bodies in the classroom before having insane anal sex with their teachers.
While anal sex is commonly associated with male homosexuality, research shows that not all gay males engage in anal sex and that it is not uncommon in heterosexual relationships.[2][8][9] Types of anal sex can also be a part of lesbian sexual practices.[10] People may experience pleasure from anal sex by stimulation of the anal nerve endings, and orgasm may be achieved through anal penetration – by indirect stimulation of the prostate in men, indirect stimulation of the clitoris or an area of the vagina (sometimes called the G-spot) in women, and other sensory nerves (especially the pudendal nerve).[2][4][11] However, people may also find anal sex painful, sometimes extremely so,[12][13] which may be primarily due to psychological factors in some cases.[13]
Male-to-female anal sex is commonly viewed as a way of preserving female virginity because it is non-procreative and does not tear the hymen; a person, especially a teenage girl or woman, who engages in anal sex or other sexual activity with no history of having engaged in vaginal intercourse is often regarded among heterosexuals and researchers as not having yet experienced virginity loss. This is sometimes called technical virginity.[45][46][47][48] Heterosexuals may view anal sex as "fooling around" or as foreplay; scholar Laura M. Carpenter stated that this view "dates to the late 1600s, with explicit 'rules' appearing around the turn of the twentieth century, as in marriage manuals defining petting as 'literally every caress known to married couples but does not include complete sexual intercourse.'"[45]
A clinical trial is a study to answer a scientific question, such as whether one treatment is better than another. Trials are based on past studies and what has been learned in the laboratory. Each trial answers certain scientific questions in order to find new and better ways to help cancer patients. During treatment clinical trials, information is collected about the effects of a new treatment and how well it works. If a clinical trial shows that a new treatment is better than one currently being used, the new treatment may become "standard." Patients may want to think about taking part in a clinical trial. Some clinical trials are open only to patients who have not started treatment.
The Renaissance poet Pietro Aretino advocated anal sex in his Sonetti Lussuriosi (Lust Sonnets).[125] While men who engaged in homosexual relationships were generally suspected of engaging in anal sex, many such individuals did not. Among these, in recent times, have been André Gide, who found it repulsive;[126] and Noël Coward, who had a horror of disease, and asserted when young that "I'd never do anything – well the disgusting thing they do – because I know I could get something wrong with me".[127]
There is less research on anal sexual activity among women who have sex with women compared to couples of other sexual orientations. In 1987, a non-scientific study (Munson) was conducted of more than 100 members of a lesbian social organization in Colorado. When asked what techniques they used in their last ten sexual encounters, lesbians in their 30s were twice as likely as other age groups to engage in anal stimulation (with a finger or dildo).[2] A 2014 study of partnered lesbian women in Canada and the U.S. found that 7% engaged in anal stimulation or penetration at least once a week; about 10% did so monthly and 70% did not at all.[70] Anilingus is also less often practiced among female same-sex couples.[71][72]
Me and my husband like having sex like daily using techniques i learned from sean but anal sex sometimes we wait a few days or weeks in between sometines not however when its been awhile it does hurt for like 10 seconds when he does penetrate sometimes he does use his fingers when I give him a blow job other tines he just gently penetrates but we never use lube or condoms i hate the feeling of condoms but What can I do to make it less painful that first 10 seconds and to make me actually orgams like a OMG orgams because from anal I never received a mind blowing orgasms
Another really common cause is a hemorrhoid (yup, we're talkin' hemorrhoids, folks) you didn't know about. This is a bit more alarming, because a hemorrhoid holds a bunch of blood inside. You'll probably feel some level of discomfort or pain if you have a hemorrhoid, and if it bursts, you'll definitely see some bleeding that should totally subside within a few days.
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