I’m a lucky man to have such a woman as my lover. But the story is really to say that anal sex is horses for courses. She at NO time ever complained of pain or discomfort on her first trip down Sphincter Alley. I know I would have!! We went the full Monty next time and I got my cock really deep into her and man, she was just going wild! It was just slowness and patience and above all utter relaxation that gave her such an easy and joyous initiation. Take note.
You might also want to manage expectations with your partner upfront. "You can say, 'Look, I want to try this with you, but if I don’t like it then I want us to be okay with this being a one-time thing,'" Levkoff says. "It's important to own that up front. If someone says, 'Well if I really like it then I’m going to want to do it more,' then that’s an obvious sign this may not be a relationship you want to be in."
Even if the anal they do on screen is hardly realistic for most people in everyday life, though, porn stars (like other sex workers) still have gobs of experience with back door play. (“I know my insides pretty well,” the anal queen Mandy Muse told me, “considering I’ve gone pretty far up and touched them.”) Sure, they sometimes have nasty accidents, or suffer horror stories. And, barring one or two like Kelly, who says that in her personal life she likes to “be ripped around and stretched to the core in an anal Olympics session” like she is on screen, most say they don’t do it nearly as often in their personal lives, and certainly not as hardcore or for as long as they do in scenes. But they know anal, and are happy to share tips for how to do it well.
Anal sex has never been a pleasant thought to me…till last night my boyfriend and I decided to try it out. We had a few drinks together and had sex the usual entry whilst that, we were having so much fun that I insisted we try anal and of course like any other guy wouldn’t disagree, we did. WOW! It was amazing! I had 3 orgasms consecutively! Something i have never done before! What better way to enjoy your sex.
Condoms – Unprotected anal sex is considered a high-risk activity for spreading sexually-transmitted infections (STIs) and disease , more so than vaginal sex , because the anus is more delicate that the vagina . In fact, the CDC considers anal sex the riskiest sexual activity for transmitting HIV , especially as the receiver who is 13 times more likely to contract HIV .
“I hate to say I'm not a big G-spot believer. There certainly are some nerves, but [research hasn’t] been able to anatomically demonstrate much on a regular basis,” Mary Jane Minkin, M.D., a clinical professor of obstetrics, gynecology, and reproductive sciences at Yale Medical School, tells SELF. “I think women have areas that are more sensitive than others, individual exploration is good, and individuals can experience stimulation in all sorts of places."
Water Based Lube – As you can probably guess, water-based lube is made of mostly water. This makes it safe for anal sex, but it’s not perfect. The problem with water based lube is that it dries out quickly and then needs to be reapplied. Stopping to reapply lube can obviously ruin the vibe. You CAN use water based lubes with latex condoms as it does not degrade them. It’s also easy to wash out.
If you’re going ver-r-r-y slowly and using lots of lube, but it’s still not happening, don’t fret. There are plenty of other ways to have fun back there; there’s no need to be too hung up on penetration. But who knows? After a little tongue and finger play, you might just be warmed up enough to try again. You can also try an ‘anal easing’ lubricant, designed to gently relax the anal area for easy insertion, like this one:
Spreading STIs. Infections and diseases that are shared during sexual intercourse — such as HIV, gonorrhea, chlamydia, and herpes — can be shared through anal sex. In fact, anal sex is the sexual behavior for transmitting and getting HIV for both men and women. People on the receiving end (or “the bottom”) of anal sex are more likely to become infected with HIV than the inserting partner (or “the top”).