Your man also needs to be someone who will actually follow your instructions too. If he thinks he is going to be in control and calling the shots, then you are going to have to bring him down to earth and let him know that this won’t be the case. Doing this isn’t so that you can “dominate” your man, it’s so that you get to experience the pleasures of anal sex AND NOT THE PAIN.
I really want to enjoy anal sex with my husband, but can’t seem to get over that feeling of needing to go to the bathroom. I’m terrified something may come out while we do it. What’s the best way to get past that “gotta poo” feeling? We want to work up to double penetration, but that’s not going to be possible until I can work through this. BTW – I’m absolutely loving your content. Very helpful!
There are two ways that we talk about anal intercourse:  receptive anal intercourse and insertive anal intercourse. “Receptive” refers to the person that is receiving penetration, and “insertive” refers to the person (male) who is providing penetration to the anus. There is also heterosexual versus homosexual anal intercourse; here, since we are concerned with pregnancy, we will mainly focus on heterosexual anal intercourse (man with a woman).
Anal sex or anal intercourse is generally the insertion and thrusting of the erect penis into a person's anus, or anus and rectum, for sexual pleasure.[1][2][3] Other forms of anal sex include fingering, the use of sex toys for anal penetration, oral sex performed on the anus (anilingus), and pegging.[4][5] Although anal sex most commonly means penile–anal penetration,[3][4][6] sources sometimes use anal intercourse to exclusively denote penile–anal penetration, and anal sex to denote any form of anal sexual activity, especially between pairings as opposed to anal masturbation.[6][7]
11. “Probably my favorite part of anal is the initial insertion. With a vagina you can find the entry in the dark and it’s usually the easiest thing to slide in there. With her ass.. well, there’s the preparation involved which at a minimum should include lubing it up. It’s an awesome visual for the guy. I’ve had my penis bounce off her asshole when trying to insert it sometimes. It’s fun. I think also since I like having my ass played with, it’s a relatable experience.. I kind of put myself in her place during the act. It’s also really naughty to think of cumming inside her that way and it oozing out. The girls I have done anal with all wanted it at least a second time.”
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So definitely don't shame yourself, your partners, or other people for wanting to try anal or enjoying it. "There’s actually very little fecal matter in that area of the rectum and the cleanup is similar to vaginal sex," she says. "The problem is a lot of people have bad experiences when they've tried anal play, because they don't know what they're doing, so that turns them off from it. Lots of people will be surprised at how much they enjoy it if they just did it right."
18. “OK. Imagine that you are a kid at school, and you get your school lunch every day. Every day the lunch lady gives you an apple and an orange, and then tells you not to eat the orange. So every day, you eat your apple, and leave your orange sitting on the tray. You love apples. Apples are fucking amazing, you love eating them every day. But every day, for weeks, for months, for years, while you’re eating that apple, there’s an orange right there, inches away, staring you in the face.You’ve never tasted an orange before, and you wonder what it’s like. Is it as good as an apple? Is it different or the same? Around you, you can see that a few other kids are eating their oranges; they seem to be happy about it. You have a friend who’s always going on about how awesome oranges are, how the orange he ate last week was spectacular. And you love your apple; you really do. But after years of that orange staring you right in the face, of watching other people eat their oranges and love them, you just want to eat the fucking orange and see what all the fuss is about.”

General statistics indicate that 70–80% of women require direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm.[11][25][26] The vaginal walls contain significantly fewer nerve endings than the clitoris (which has many nerve endings specifically intended for orgasm), and therefore intense sexual pleasure, including orgasm, from vaginal sexual stimulation is less likely to occur than from direct clitoral stimulation in the majority of women.[27][28][29] The clitoris is composed of more than the externally visible glans (head).[2][30] The vagina, for example, is flanked on each side by the clitoral crura, the internal legs of the clitoris, which are highly sensitive and become engorged with blood when sexually aroused.[31][32][33] Indirect stimulation of the clitoris through anal penetration may be caused by the shared sensory nerves, especially the pudendal nerve, which gives off the inferior anal nerves and divides into the perineal nerve and the dorsal nerve of the clitoris.[4] Although the anus has many nerve endings, their purpose is not specifically for inducing orgasm, and so a woman achieving orgasm solely by anal stimulation is rare.[34][35]
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I really want to enjoy anal sex with my husband, but can’t seem to get over that feeling of needing to go to the bathroom. I’m terrified something may come out while we do it. What’s the best way to get past that “gotta poo” feeling? We want to work up to double penetration, but that’s not going to be possible until I can work through this. BTW – I’m absolutely loving your content. Very helpful!
How do you treat an external hemorrhoid? An external hemorrhoid is a hemorrhoid that occurs outside of the body in the veins around the anus. Caused by excess straining while passing stool, lifting heavy weights, and pregnancy, symptoms include bleeding, cracking, and itching. Treatments include warm baths, OTC medications, and surgery. Learn more here. Read now
For your first time, Hutcherson says spooning is better than doggy-style. “For those just starting out, I think getting on all fours might be a little too intense. Lying on your side in the spooning position won’t allow penetration that’s as deep. It’s also a more relaxing position. When you become more comfortable, the doggie is the easiest way for a woman to orgasm.” And don’t forget to breathe. Says O’Reilly, “As you breathe deeply, your inner sphincter muscle will relax to facilitate penetration.”
When there’s a bunch of waste in your colon that needs to come out, your colon contracts and pushes the stool into the rectum, an 8-inch chamber that connects the colon to the anus. Your brain receives the signal that you need to head to the bathroom sometime soon, and your rectum stores the stool until you voluntarily contract it to push the poop out.
The fear that anal sex will loosen you up somehow and leave you farting and shitting all over the place is totally unfounded. Take it from Hutcherson. “The thing I can say…as a doctor is, it’s not unsafe. She’s not going to be wearing a diaper, she’s not going to have faecal incontinence, she’s not going to be soiling herself or passing gas all day.”

Although Hindu society does not formally acknowledge sexuality between men, it formally acknowledges and gives space to sexuality between men and third genders as a variation of male-female sex (meaning a part of heterosexuality, rather than homosexuality, if analyzed in western terms). Hijras, Alis, Kotis, etc. (the various forms of third gender that exist in India today) are all characterized by the gender role of having receptive anal and oral sex with men. However, sexuality between males (as distinct from third genders) has thrived, mostly unspoken and informally, without being seen as different in the way it is seen in the west; young men involved in "such relationships do not consider themselves to be 'homosexual' but conceive their behavior in terms of sexual desire, opportunity and pleasure".[139]


I have found that the 1st few times anal sex is tried. It is best not to pull in & out at all, when you’re partner says it’s okay to start moving, go in circles with the love muscle or strap on. Use the circular motion everytime , your partner will go in & out when the pain finally goes away all the way. Especially if the partner is extra small like me. I’m medically documented as being super small inside, everything small. My husband love’s it, but it puts me at higher risk of real injury. I understand the alarm that the 1 lady mentioned. I learned in high school sex ed. That both partners get micro tares upon intercourse. It’s worse when dry. So without proper/ lots of lube you can actually ripp a person open. The porn star laughs the internal stitches off. I read it all the time. Oh haha look what I can survive. So it’s really important to listen to the advice provided. Slow, slow, gentle, communication. If you get blood, like 1 comment mentioned. Then up the lube and slow the #@$!% down! ! As small as I am I’ve only had blood when disrespected. Scar tissue don’t stretch it rippes. I’ve had a hysterectomy, I know that 1st hand as well. If you’re partner has a really hard time understanding, try what I always have. Try switching the vulnerability roles. Don’t mush the person’s insides just because it’s been done to you. Be nice, and it can usually become a nice addition to your sex life. A man cannot understand until he’s man enough to allow a woman that kind of experience. And manly men? It is not gay!! You want what you want from women, truth is what’s good for the gander is good for the goose, you’ll open doors that never existed before. Keep in mind that a woman’s body changes up to 500 times per day, just because it’s going well doesn’t mean that it cannot become very painful 1/2 way through. Stay versatile and keep mutual pleasure going. It also hurts me to have a man pull out all the time. It resets the butt back to tight. Also, being too rough can and does cause prolapse. Thank God I’ve never been hurt that bad. I’ve cared for people with prolapse. I came out of the forest in 97 and was a c.n.a. for 4 yrs. My biggest problem is the total lack of meaningful medical sexual education. For instance, most female rectum is on average 6 inches long. The gut can move some hence the super slow start. But hey men some of us will never be able to take 10 plus inches balls deep up the ass. That doesn’t make us less of a woman, just means you boys have to step up be real men and give a shit.. if you do you’ll be able to give your woman the kind of rectal orgasms. That I get. If you can, boy hang on you might get a broken dick during something that strong. Well gotta go suck my husband, get some lovin.
Latex or polyurethane male condoms are highly effective in preventing HIV and certain other STDs when used correctly from start to finish for each act of anal sex. People who report using condoms consistently reduced their risk of getting HIV through insertive anal sex with an HIV-positive partner, on average, by 63%, and receptive anal sex with an HIV-positive partner, on average, by 72%. Condoms are much less effective when not used consistently. It is also important that sufficient water- or silicone-based lubricant be used during anal sex to prevent condom breakage and tearing of tissue. Female nitrile condoms can also prevent HIV and some other STDs. Since condoms are not 100% effective, consider using other prevention methods to further reduce your risk.

It feels really good when you take a good poop, so one would imagine that's the draw for trying some anal, right? Not really, says one woman I surveyed. "I've suffered from hemorrhoids from a very young age, so I had to be very comfortable applying creams to my butthole and using suppositories. I absolutely CRINGE at the thought of how the suppository makes its way up your canal before your anus closes and swallows it whole. It gives me the heebie-jeebies — like nails on a chalkboard. So, while I really like the satisfying feeling you get when something comes out of the butt, there's just no way I can fathom a cock going in there," says Alex, from Florida.
5. You're gonna wanna be vocal during this process. Even if you're normally very quiet during sex, this is a time you'll wanna speak up—especially your first time trying it out with a new partner. Tell them if they're going too fast (or too slow—see point 10 below), if you feel like you're literally about to poop everywhere, or if you're experiencing pain/discomfort. Also, tell them if it feels good! If you're feeling nervous, chances are your partner is, too. Positive feedback—we love it!
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