Partaking in any form of sex – be it oral, anal, or vaginal, can put one at risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection (STI). Anal sex, however, carries the highest risk of transmission. This is because the tissue in the anus is quite fragile and thus incurs small, microscopic tears during the act of anal sex. These tears expose trace amounts of blood, making it much more likely for HIV and/or Hepatitis B or C to be transmitted. The risk of contracting these STIs is greater for the recipient (aka the “bottom”), but the “top” is also at risk. This is still true when lots of lubrication is used.
Inadequately cleaned toys can serve as a reservoir for bacterial growth and even some viral sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Using a condom with toys – even if you don’t share your toys – will reduce the risk of infections. Hepatitis C, furthermore, can survive as a miniscule drop of dried blood on a toy (or other object) for up to 3 months and become reactivated when wet. (If your eyes aren’t bulging, go back and re-read that last sentence.) (Side note: that’s why sharing cocaine straws is a very real method of Hep C transmission: cocaine causes micro-tears in the nose, leaving invisible specs of blood on the straw that harbor the virus for up to 3 months.) So instead of scrubbing your toys with a nail brush or boiling them compulsively, just use a condom and rinse them off in warm, soapy water afterwards.

7. “It’s tighter around the actual butthole itself then less so deeper in. I’ve tried it with my partner a few times, but have never managed to cum from it because it doesn’t stimulate the more sensitive parts on the end of my penis enough. You might find that you enjoy it less then PiV, but you may also find that the hotness of it does it for you.”
I have found that the 1st few times anal sex is tried. It is best not to pull in & out at all, when you’re partner says it’s okay to start moving, go in circles with the love muscle or strap on. Use the circular motion everytime , your partner will go in & out when the pain finally goes away all the way. Especially if the partner is extra small like me. I’m medically documented as being super small inside, everything small. My husband love’s it, but it puts me at higher risk of real injury. I understand the alarm that the 1 lady mentioned. I learned in high school sex ed. That both partners get micro tares upon intercourse. It’s worse when dry. So without proper/ lots of lube you can actually ripp a person open. The porn star laughs the internal stitches off. I read it all the time. Oh haha look what I can survive. So it’s really important to listen to the advice provided. Slow, slow, gentle, communication. If you get blood, like 1 comment mentioned. Then up the lube and slow the #@$!% down! ! As small as I am I’ve only had blood when disrespected. Scar tissue don’t stretch it rippes. I’ve had a hysterectomy, I know that 1st hand as well. If you’re partner has a really hard time understanding, try what I always have. Try switching the vulnerability roles. Don’t mush the person’s insides just because it’s been done to you. Be nice, and it can usually become a nice addition to your sex life. A man cannot understand until he’s man enough to allow a woman that kind of experience. And manly men? It is not gay!! You want what you want from women, truth is what’s good for the gander is good for the goose, you’ll open doors that never existed before. Keep in mind that a woman’s body changes up to 500 times per day, just because it’s going well doesn’t mean that it cannot become very painful 1/2 way through. Stay versatile and keep mutual pleasure going. It also hurts me to have a man pull out all the time. It resets the butt back to tight. Also, being too rough can and does cause prolapse. Thank God I’ve never been hurt that bad. I’ve cared for people with prolapse. I came out of the forest in 97 and was a c.n.a. for 4 yrs. My biggest problem is the total lack of meaningful medical sexual education. For instance, most female rectum is on average 6 inches long. The gut can move some hence the super slow start. But hey men some of us will never be able to take 10 plus inches balls deep up the ass. That doesn’t make us less of a woman, just means you boys have to step up be real men and give a shit.. if you do you’ll be able to give your woman the kind of rectal orgasms. That I get. If you can, boy hang on you might get a broken dick during something that strong. Well gotta go suck my husband, get some lovin.
11. The person doing it should err on the shallow side. Everything that goes in should be "just the tip." The nerve endings you're trying to stimulate are in the anus—hence, the moniker "rimming"—and not all the way up there, which is generally the painful part and also the part that makes you feel like you need to take a huge dump. Imagine it like a basketball hoop, and the ball should just be rolling around the rim of the basket, not actually making the basket. Does that help? I know nothing about basketball.
6. “I’m probably an outlier on the spectrum of “tightness” that I enjoy, in that I actually don’t enjoy a tight pussy. I don’t jerk off with a tight squeeze – very, very light in fact with a LOT of lube. That being said, the best blow job for me is the kind where the woman’s mouth is loosely mocking a wet, slimy cave that you park a Prius in. I just want to feel the sliding and wetness. When it comes to pussy, I love it, but my favorite is pounding my GF with a large dildo (which she loves) and being the last to be inside of her, after she’s all loosened up. You know that old saying, ‘It’s like throwing a hotdog down a hallway’? I actually prefer that. I’m not sure why, psychologically, but it just feels great to me to be flopping around in there. So, when it comes to anal, all of those descriptions are exactly what its like. It’s open. It’s wet (with a lot of lube, of course), it’s slimy, and it’s unconstricted.”

Pelvic exam : An exam of the vagina, cervix, uterus, fallopian tubes, ovaries, and rectum. A speculum is inserted into the vagina and the doctor or nurse looks at the vagina and cervix for signs of disease. A Pap test of the cervix is usually done. The doctor or nurse also inserts one or two lubricated, gloved fingers of one hand into the vagina and places the other hand over the lower abdomen to feel the size, shape, and position of the uterus and ovaries. The doctor or nurse also inserts a lubricated, gloved finger into the rectum to feel for lumps or abnormal areas.


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One person described it as “like getting a tattoo: It hurts, but you know you still love it.” Another person compared it to popping a painful pimple: “The first few seconds can sting, but the sense of relief and endorphins rush immediately afterwards floods out the momentary ‘pain.’” A few other people compared it to the pain you experience when working out. “It hurts because it’s a muscle being stretched. When you first work out, your muscles hurt because they’re being stretched, but you feel good. Similar good feeling but exponentially better.”
In case you hadn’t noticed, hetero anal sex is, like, huge right now. Just a few decades ago, outside of queer circles, it was seen as a taboo act that only about a tenth of men and a quarter of women would cop to researchers to having tried at least once. Now, anal is a fixture of mainstream pop, not to mention porn, culture. In truth, not many hetero men or women try it, much less on the reg. (CDC data shows about a third of hetero women have ever tried anal; the number who regularly engage in it is unclear, but likely much lower. Data on hetero men experimenting with anal stimulation is hard to find, although prostate massager sales have grown rapidly of late and some reporting indicates rising interest.) Still, many sexually active folk, especially hetero women, reportedly feel pressure to dip a toe into butt stuff.
Anal sex or anal intercourse is generally the insertion and thrusting of the erect penis into a person's anus, or anus and rectum, for sexual pleasure.[1][2][3] Other forms of anal sex include fingering, the use of sex toys for anal penetration, oral sex performed on the anus (anilingus), and pegging.[4][5] Although anal sex most commonly means penile–anal penetration,[3][4][6] sources sometimes use anal intercourse to exclusively denote penile–anal penetration, and anal sex to denote any form of anal sexual activity, especially between pairings as opposed to anal masturbation.[6][7]
In a male receptive partner, being anally penetrated can produce a pleasurable sensation due to the inserted penis rubbing or brushing against the prostate through the anal wall.[4][11] This can result in pleasurable sensations and can lead to an orgasm in some cases.[4][11] Prostate stimulation can produce a deeper orgasm, sometimes described by men as more widespread and intense, longer-lasting, and allowing for greater feelings of ecstasy than orgasm elicited by penile stimulation only.[4][11] The prostate is located next to the rectum and is the larger, more developed male homologue (variation) to the female Skene's glands.[22] It is also typical for a man to not reach orgasm as a receptive partner solely from anal sex.[23][24]

But porn anal, most in the adult industry will gladly tell you, is a fantasy. “Girls train their assholes in order to take the kind of crazy poundings they take on film,” says Skylar Snow, an adult performer who entered the industry last year. That training and prep is different for everyone, but usually it involves acclimating anuses with fingers or toys for hours or days before a scene, and using relaxation tricks. Some take supplements to keep their BMs regular, fasting, popping Imodium, and doing at least one enema in the half-day or day before a scene to minimize the risk of a fecal mishap. “The controlled environment of porn really does help,” says Joseline Kelly, who entered the industry in 2015. "Because, OK, I know I’m going to have anal with this person over here and at this time, so you just feel 100 percent ready” in a way you often can’t in real life.
10. Start small. The whole point of anal play is to keep it simple before working your way up. "To prepare a bottom for sex play, start with fingers, tongue, or a very small sex toy designed for butt play," says clinical sexologist Nancy Sutton Pierce. "An option is to purchase a butt plug kit that uses several plugs of graduating sizes just for this training."
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Water Based Lube – As you can probably guess, water-based lube is made of mostly water. This makes it safe for anal sex, but it’s not perfect. The problem with water based lube is that it dries out quickly and then needs to be reapplied. Stopping to reapply lube can obviously ruin the vibe. You CAN use water based lubes with latex condoms as it does not degrade them. It’s also easy to wash out.

The anus is surrounded in its length by folds called anal valves, which converge at a line known as the pectinate line. This represents the point of transition between the hindgut and the ectoderm in the embryo. Below this point, the mucosa of the internal anus becomes skin.[4] :397 The pectinate line is also the division between the internal and external anus.


That depends on the toy. You want something with a flared base that’s not going to get lost in there, so stick with things marketed for sexy times, not household items that double as sex toys. (It happens.) A toy can be a great warm-up for the main event; you’ll want to use something that’s easy to wash and will stimulate you in the right way. There are so many fun toys on the market – shop around and find the perfect one for you and your partner.

Men who have sex with men may also prefer to engage in frot or other forms of mutual masturbation because they find it more pleasurable or more affectionate, to preserve technical virginity, or as safe sex alternatives to anal sex,[53][55][61] while other frot advocates denounce anal sex as degrading to the receptive partner and unnecessarily risky.[58][62]
Ask a girl how many guys she has had sex with and she may say only three or four. That's because most whores don't count all the men who have mouth-fucked them or had anal sex with them in the past. Somewhere in history women convinced themselves that ass fucking is a perverted act, and yet they simultaneously believe that it somehow does not count as sex. You can try and figure out how that logic works, or you can relax your mind and focus your eyes instead on this amazing collection of thousands of anal sex videos from PORN.com absolutely free for your enjoyment!
Luckily for butts everywhere, anal sex is no longer the ~taboo~ subject it once was. Which is a good thing! Women who've been there and done that say it's a welcome addition to their sexual repertoire. But just like you must walk before you can run, you must have some sort of anal foreplay before you go for the full monty of anal sex. Or, you know, you can do butt play and leave it at that forever, because it's your booty and you make the rules.
A clinical trial is a study to answer a scientific question, such as whether one treatment is better than another. Trials are based on past studies and what has been learned in the laboratory. Each trial answers certain scientific questions in order to find new and better ways to help cancer patients. During treatment clinical trials, information is collected about the effects of a new treatment and how well it works. If a clinical trial shows that a new treatment is better than one currently being used, the new treatment may become "standard." Patients may want to think about taking part in a clinical trial. Some clinical trials are open only to patients who have not started treatment.
If you’re using a sex toy with a partner, it’s important to have safer sex to help prevent STDs. If someone who has an STD uses a sex toy, the body fluids on that toy can spread the infection to another person who uses that toy. So wash any sex toys with mild soap and water after you use them and before they touch another person’s genitals. You can also put condoms on sex toys to keep them clean and prevent the spread of STDs — just change condoms before the toy touches another person’s genitals. And never put a sex toy that’s been in a butt into a vagina or mouth without washing it or changing the condom first. Butt germs can cause STDs and other infections.

Men who have sex with men may also prefer to engage in frot or other forms of mutual masturbation because they find it more pleasurable or more affectionate, to preserve technical virginity, or as safe sex alternatives to anal sex,[53][55][61] while other frot advocates denounce anal sex as degrading to the receptive partner and unnecessarily risky.[58][62]
Most cases of anal cancer are related to infection with the human papilloma virus (HPV). Anal sex alone does not cause anal cancer; the risk of anal cancer through anal sex is attributed to HPV infection, which is often contracted through unprotected anal sex.[75] Anal cancer is relatively rare, and significantly less common than cancer of the colon or rectum (colorectal cancer); the American Cancer Society states that it affects approximately 7,060 people (4,430 in women and 2,630 in men) and results in approximately 880 deaths (550 in women and 330 in men) in the United States, and that, though anal cancer has been on the rise for many years, it is mainly diagnosed in adults, "with an average age being in the early 60s" and it "affects women somewhat more often than men."[75] Though anal cancer is serious, treatment for it is "often very effective" and most anal cancer patients can be cured of the disease; the American Cancer Society adds that "receptive anal intercourse also increases the risk of anal cancer in both men and women, particularly in those younger than the age of 30. Because of this, men who have sex with men have a high risk of this cancer."[75]
27.“From a straight guy’s perspective: Like a lot of the previous comments, there’s an element of the taboo involved in it. Anal isn’t quite as accepted in ‘mainstream’ sexual discussions yet, and as such remains a bit out of reach for many curious individuals. Having already done anal on occasion with my girlfriend, the taboo is still there but has been transferred from a ‘mysterious and unknown’ sort of taboo to a ‘so rare as to be mystical’ taboo. On the pleasure side of things, it provides a nice change in sensation from vaginal, oral, and manual stimulation. And while it may not provide as much physical pleasure, its infrequency offsets that since it’s not something you’re typically used to like one of the above three. Also, the intimacy factor can’t be overstated. Because it’s such a rare occurrence for most guys (myself included), it carries a lot of weight when your girlfriend/wife/FWB/etc. gives you the opportunity. It requires more trust and communication than regular sex, and oftentimes your SO is sacrificing some of their comfort (and possibly dignity) to give you pleasure. It’s honestly both thrilling and humbling.”
A different kind of sex toy is a vibrator. Vibrators run on electricity or batteries, and they vibrate (buzz) when you turn them on. Many people like the feeling of vibrations on their genitals, especially the clitoris, penis, and anus. Vibrators also come in different shapes, materials, and sizes. Some are shaped so they can be inserted into a vagina or anus. Others are designed to be used on the outside of your body, like on the clitoris or penis. People can get vibrators and other sex toys online, in some drugstores, and at “adult shops” (you may have to be at least 18 years old to go into some stores that sell sex toys).
A male citizen taking the passive (or receptive) role in anal intercourse (paedicatio in Latin) was condemned in Rome as an act of impudicitia (immodesty or unchastity); free men, however, frequently took the active role with a young male slave, known as a catamite or puer delicatus. The latter was allowed because anal intercourse was considered equivalent to vaginal intercourse in this way; men were said to "take it like a woman" (muliebria pati, "to undergo womanly things") when they were anally penetrated, but when a man performed anal sex on a woman, she was thought of as playing the boy's role.[115] Likewise, women were believed to only be capable of anal sex or other sex acts with women if they possessed an exceptionally large clitoris or a dildo.[115] The passive partner in any of these cases was always considered a woman or a boy because being the one who penetrates was characterized as the only appropriate way for an adult male citizen to engage in sexual activity, and he was therefore considered unmanly if he was the one who was penetrated; slaves could be considered "non-citizen".[115] Although Roman men often availed themselves of their own slaves or others for anal intercourse, Roman comedies and plays presented Greek settings and characters for explicit acts of anal intercourse, and this may be indicative that the Romans thought of anal sex as something specifically "Greek".[116]

Three words: lube, lube, lube. Do not – we repeat, DO NOT – attempt anal sex without copious amounts of lube on hand. Slather on your partner’s penis, your entire backdoor area, inside the opening of your anus, his fingers, your fingers, and anything that’s going to go anywhere near your booty. Dr Hutcherson recommends using a silicone-based lubricant, rather than a glycerine or water-based one, as it will last longer and be less messy.
I have found that the 1st few times anal sex is tried. It is best not to pull in & out at all, when you’re partner says it’s okay to start moving, go in circles with the love muscle or strap on. Use the circular motion everytime , your partner will go in & out when the pain finally goes away all the way. Especially if the partner is extra small like me. I’m medically documented as being super small inside, everything small. My husband love’s it, but it puts me at higher risk of real injury. I understand the alarm that the 1 lady mentioned. I learned in high school sex ed. That both partners get micro tares upon intercourse. It’s worse when dry. So without proper/ lots of lube you can actually ripp a person open. The porn star laughs the internal stitches off. I read it all the time. Oh haha look what I can survive. So it’s really important to listen to the advice provided. Slow, slow, gentle, communication. If you get blood, like 1 comment mentioned. Then up the lube and slow the #@$!% down! ! As small as I am I’ve only had blood when disrespected. Scar tissue don’t stretch it rippes. I’ve had a hysterectomy, I know that 1st hand as well. If you’re partner has a really hard time understanding, try what I always have. Try switching the vulnerability roles. Don’t mush the person’s insides just because it’s been done to you. Be nice, and it can usually become a nice addition to your sex life. A man cannot understand until he’s man enough to allow a woman that kind of experience. And manly men? It is not gay!! You want what you want from women, truth is what’s good for the gander is good for the goose, you’ll open doors that never existed before. Keep in mind that a woman’s body changes up to 500 times per day, just because it’s going well doesn’t mean that it cannot become very painful 1/2 way through. Stay versatile and keep mutual pleasure going. It also hurts me to have a man pull out all the time. It resets the butt back to tight. Also, being too rough can and does cause prolapse. Thank God I’ve never been hurt that bad. I’ve cared for people with prolapse. I came out of the forest in 97 and was a c.n.a. for 4 yrs. My biggest problem is the total lack of meaningful medical sexual education. For instance, most female rectum is on average 6 inches long. The gut can move some hence the super slow start. But hey men some of us will never be able to take 10 plus inches balls deep up the ass. That doesn’t make us less of a woman, just means you boys have to step up be real men and give a shit.. if you do you’ll be able to give your woman the kind of rectal orgasms. That I get. If you can, boy hang on you might get a broken dick during something that strong. Well gotta go suck my husband, get some lovin.
Nope. Not a great idea. You need to start slowly. The anus is a muscle that needs to be worked up to having larger objects inserted. Start with finger or a small (I do mean v. small) butt plug and either warm yourself up or have a partner help. To do this, lube up your finger or toy and gently massage the anus. As you feel more aroused and comfortable, work the object inside. Gently move it around to loosen up the area.
Another really common cause is a hemorrhoid (yup, we're talkin' hemorrhoids, folks) you didn't know about. This is a bit more alarming, because a hemorrhoid holds a bunch of blood inside. You'll probably feel some level of discomfort or pain if you have a hemorrhoid, and if it bursts, you'll definitely see some bleeding that should totally subside within a few days.
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